A lot of women don’t orgasm through penetrative sex. It’s a good thing that you can use your hands to pleasure a woman and satisfy her.
While most people use hands during foreplay, there isn’t a law about it, and you can use your hands and fingers to turn on women and increase pleasure anytime.
If you are new to the world of fingering, then you are in the right place. This article is a great way to learn how to please a woman with your hands.
What is fingering?
Fingering refers to giving pleasure to women through manual stimulation of the G-spot, vagina, and other erogenous zones using your hands and fingers.
There’s more to it than you might think; you can enhance her excitement and satisfaction by stimulating the clitoris and exploring the labia.
Additionally, this technique can also be a part of intercourse, elevating the overall sexual experience and intensifying the pleasure for her.
All about vagina
Before we begin, it is important to understand the anatomy. Let's clarify the distinction between the vagina and the vulva. The vagina refers to the muscular canal connecting the uterus to the vulva.
In contrast, the "vulva" encompasses everything on the outside, including the pubic mound, inner and outer labia, clitoris, vaginal opening, and perineum.
Fingering a woman can involve exploring these areas, and if you are looking for something different, try fingering her from behind.
Whichever way you go, whatever technique you use, the two main areas of interest will always be the clitoris and the vaginal opening. Still, the entire region is sensitive and warrants attention. Learn more about the basics of the female body in body basics for her article.
Learn what she likes
Each woman has her preference, but most masturbate, so she’ll probably have a good idea of what turns her on. Request your partner to masturbate in your presence, allowing you the opportunity to observe her preferences.
Put your hand on top of hers and sense the speed, pressure, and specific area she enjoys. If she hesitates to demonstrate, well, it's time for you to conduct a little research of your own.
Get her in the mood
Rushing straight into the clitoris or vaginal opening isn’t a good idea. A foreplay deserves a little foreplay of its own.
It could be anything from kisses to exploring her body to relaxing the atmosphere by putting up a few candles and a shoulder massage. Remember, the easier and more relaxed she initially feels, the more enjoyable the experience will be for both of you.
Adding lubricants is also a smart move for smoother finger movements, making the experience more pleasurable. These gels are more than just lubrication and can be used to massage her inner thighs and the area around the vaginal opening for more stimulating foreplay.
Keep your tools in order
Make sure your hands and fingernails are clean, as sharp nails and fingering aren’t a good combination.
Moreover, short fingernails and hand hygiene reduce the risk of small vaginal tears, which could lead to an elevated risk of contracting Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs).
How to finger the clitoris
What looks like a small button can extend further back – up to five inches and holds more than 10,000 nerve fibers.
To stimulate it effectively, try cupping the pubic mound and gently rocking your hand. Some of the other fingering techniques include:
- Spread the labia with one hand, with the heel of your hand on the clitoris, using fingers from the other hand for penetration.
- Sliding your fingers in a V-shape up and down the clitoris.
- Tapping the soft pad of your fingers over the pubic mound and clit or swirling your fingertips around the clit in ever-decreasing circles.
How to reach the G-Spot
Most people find it difficult to find the G-spot because its size, dimension, and location vary from woman to woman. Some women swear they have a G-spot, and others don’t believe it exists.
Either way, there’s no harm in giving it a try. Here’s how:
- Lay her on her back, insert one or two fingers, and imagine trying to reach the back of her belly button.
- The key is to enter at an angle and employ a curling motion to massage the top of the vagina gently.
- You might be on the right track if you detect an area resembling a bump with a more textured feel.
