Your less experienced friend could benefit from a wealth of advice regarding post-marriage sexual experiences. Below are strategies for discussing this topic and providing them with accurate information.
When a friend is getting married, it triggers a chain of activities such as assisting with arrangements, meeting families, and rehearsing for the wedding.
Amidst these tasks, it's crucial to have a conversation with your friend about marriage and sex. If you're married and your friend is inexperienced in matters of sex, your advice can be incredibly valuable.
Here are some topics you might consider discussing:
1. Asking for consent
If your friend is unfamiliar with their potential spouse, the wedding night can be challenging due to the pressure to consummate the marriage. Conversely, engaging in intimacy with an unfamiliar partner presents significant difficulties.
It's important to advise your friend to have a conversation with their partner before the wedding about this matter. Consensual sex is fulfilling, whereas engaging in it solely to fulfill societal expectations can lead to negative experiences
2. Exercising safety
While both partners may be eager to engage in sexual activity immediately after marriage - probably because it's their first-time sex experience, it is advisable to practice safe sex right from the start.
Despite being in a monogamous relationship, it's essential to prioritize protection to avoid unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections. Moreover, practicing safe sex can enhance intimacy as it allows both partners to relax and fully enjoy the experience.
3. Building a connection
Even if both partners are familiar with each other, there might be an unseen obstacle that has hindered them from engaging in sexual activity until now. It's possible that they mutually agreed to wait until after the wedding to have sex. However, before proceeding hastily, an open conversation about the matter is beneficial.
A candid discussion about any concerns and apprehensions, even if accompanied by some nervous laughter, can make the topic less daunting and set the stage for their initial sexual encounter.
Sexual compatibility
Finding the right "sexual chemistry" with a partner can take time, so advise your friend to stay relaxed and allow things to unfold naturally. Being attuned to their own and their partner's needs can lead to a more fulfilling and enjoyable sexual experience.
Conversely, it can become problematic if one partner insists on something completely different from what the other enjoys. Engaging in honest conversations and experimenting with different approaches can help resolve such differences.
