When you are in a long-distance relationship or separated from your partner (due to work, travel, family reasons, quarantining, or any other reason), it is often difficult to maintain closeness, explore fantasies, and keep the spark alive.  

But in today’s digital world, technology plays an increasing role in nearly every aspect of our lives, and sex is no exception! Intimacy is no longer limited by physical distance. 

Online sex, a.k.a virtual sex, a.k.a cybersex, has become an exciting and meaningful way for couples to indulge in sexual activities via phone, computer, or another digital device. 

Whether you prefer flirty sexting, playful phone calls, or spicy video call sessions, there's a virtual intimacy style that suits you.

Keep scrolling for expert tips on enjoying a safe, intimate, and pleasurable online experience! 

1. Safety first 

Just as in real life, safety and consent should be priorities for online intimacy. 

While physical protection like condoms isn’t needed for online intimacy, digital security is crucial to protect your privacy and personal information. 

Here’s how to empower safe sex online! 

  1. Use a separate, end-to-end encrypted, anonymous account. Use a platform exclusively for this purpose to avoid accidental mismatches with work or personal accounts. 
  2. Set the privacy settings to the highest level and talk about boundaries with your partner. Whatever arrangement is decided regarding recording and screenshots, both parties should feel completely comfortable with it. 
  3. Consent is essential. Before engaging in virtual intimacy, set clear expectations and mutual agreements, just as you would in person.
  4. Define your comfort level regarding the things to discount. When sending images or during video calls, it is advisable to show only your face or your body—but not both—to reduce risks.

2. Start with sexting 

In online intimacy, sexting often serves as the ultimate foreplay idea to drive your partner wild, especially during simultaneous orgasms. 

Just remember to always “turn off notifications” to keep things discreet. Additionally, it is advisable to use a separate application specifically for sexting to ensure privacy and security.  

  • Flirt throughout the day to build excitement before your video session.
  • Use emojis or teasing pictures to spark desire and keep your partner engaged.
  • Send voice messages with your sultry tone, hinting at what’s to come later.
  • Try quick video clips as playful previews to heighten anticipation for a longer, steamy session.

Keeping the tension alive through sexting makes virtual intimacy even more exciting and immersive.

3. Dirty talk

Dirty talk is an excellent way to spice things up! Since physical touch isn’t possible, online communication becomes a powerful tool for deepening connection and great sex. 

Whether with a new partner or a long-term lover, the naughty conversations add excitement and intensity to virtual sex by creating a more immersive and arousing experience.

Explore your kinks, vocalize desires, and offer sensual affirmations to help stimulate the mind, making virtual sex feel more real. Whether through text, voice, messages, or live calls, erotic talk boosts confidence, enhances arousal, and fosters emotional closeness between partners. 

4. Sex toy

Sex toys are scientifically designed to enhance sexual pleasure. They target the right pleasure points and reduce the effort involved. 

In virtual sex, they introduce a new level of realism, fun, and interactivity, making online experiences more immersive. They also help keep things exciting and allow couples to explore new sensations despite the distance.  

App-controlled and interactive sex toys such as pleasure sleeves, dildos, or multifunction vibrators can enable real-time sensations that respond to touch, movement, or voice commands. 

5. Virtual cuddles & after 

Don’t be hasty to disconnect immediately after the virtual sex—just like an in-person sexual encounter, post-sex connection matters.

Instead of logging off right away, take a moment to have a pillow talk, share appreciation, or read something together. You could stay on the call while cuddling under the covers, chatting, or transitioning into your next activity, like work or a workout. 

On the other hand, if you prefer alone time after, virtual sex makes it easy to log off and reset. Communicate with your partner to ensure you both feel comfortable, whether staying connected longer or parting smoothly.