How To Make Missionary Sex Better: Best Tips & Styles

The missionary position is a classic and widely practiced sex position (penis-in-vagina) where the receiving partner lies on their back while the penetrating partner is on top, facing them. 

It allows for deep penetration, eye contact, kissing, and full-body closeness, making it one of the most intimate and emotionally connected positions. Its simplicity makes it comfortable, beginner-friendly, and easy to modify for enhanced pleasure and variety. 

Here are some tips for how to make missionary-style sex better: 

1. Erogenous zones

Keep stimulating erogenous zones like the neck, ears, inner thighs, nipples, and lower back, even during the missionary position, enhancing pleasure and intimacy.

Kissing, touching, or using a vibrator in these areas heightens arousal, making the experience more intense and satisfying. Plus, focusing on sensitive spots deepens the connection and increases physical and emotional pleasure for both partners. 

2. Textured condom

Textured condoms—including those of the ribbed and dotted variety—add extra stimulation and friction, enhancing pleasure for both partners during missionary. 

Ridges, dots, or ribbed surfaces provide increased sensation, especially for the receiving partner. They make each movement more intense and satisfying and help heighten arousal, adding a new layer of excitement and variety to the classic position.

3. Lubes

Lubricants, pleasure gels, or lubes help reduce friction, making movements smoother, more comfortable, and more pleasurable. 

They enhance glide and sensitivity, preventing dryness and discomfort. Warming or tingling lubes can heighten sensations, intensifying pleasure for both partners. Adding lube ensures longer-lasting, more enjoyable intimacy, making missionary sex silkier and more stimulating.

4. Sex toys

Incorporating sex toys like vibrators, bullet stimulators, cock rings, or any other type of sex toy for men adds extra stimulation and excitement to missionary sex. 

Sex toys can prolong arousal, deepen pleasure, and heighten clitoral or genital stimulation during penetration, increasing the chances of orgasm while in the missionary position.

Sometimes, classic or standard gets boring. Thus, changing missionary sex styles adjusts angles, depth, and stimulation, making the overall missionary sex experience more exciting and pleasurable. Try some of these missionary sex position variations to keep the passion alive! 

1. Lift those legs

Lift the receiving partner’s legs higher (onto either side of the penetrating partner’s shoulders or on the shoulders themselves). This simple maneuver tilts the pelvis, allowing for deeper penetration and better G-spot stimulation. It also creates a tighter, more controlled angle, increasing the closeness and intensity and enhancing overall pleasure for both partners.

2. Use pillow

Placing a pillow (or pillows) under the receiver’s lower back or hips will help elevate the pelvis, creating a better angle for deeper penetration and enhanced G-spot stimulation. Plus, it will also reduce strain on the lower back, increasing comfort for longer sessions. 

3. Coital alignment technique 

The coital alignment technique, or C.A.T., shifts the thrusting motion into a slow grinding movement, aligning the penetrating partner’s pelvis with the receiving partner’s clitoris. 

By focusing on friction rather than depth, CAT increases clitoral stimulation, enhances intimacy, and prolongs pleasure for both partners.

4. The spork

The spork closely resembles side sex and is a modified missionary where the receiving partner lifts a leg upward while lying on their back. In contrast, the penetrating partner moves their own body at a 90-degree angle between the receiver’s legs. 

A relaxed variation that can be easily adjustable to find the perfect angle for enhanced clitoral friction, closer body contact, and better rhythm control for a more pleasurable experience.