Taking the leap into the unknown is often terrifying, and buying sex toys can be a nerve-wracking experience, too. But we’ve compiled an informative guide that takes away the guesswork from buying the right kind of sex toy, so that you can find the perfect one for yourself.

Choosing a vibrator is always a matter of personal preference. If you’re a complete novice, you won’t know which one to buy. A little guidance can go a long way, and besides, there are many types of vibrators to choose from. So whether you’re shopping for yourself, or looking for a vibrator to use as a couple, or even seeking one to gift your partner with (imagine her face when she unwraps that on a festive morning!), we’ve thought about everything you need to know, so that you can buy the right one without wasting too much time on experimentation.

Making the first move

If you’re buying a vibrator for yourself, you may already have an idea of what you’re looking for. Buying for yourself is easier as compared to buying for a couple. If you’re shopping around for a vibrator that both of you can use, or which you think your partner will like, you will have to be sure that you’re both on the same page about it. Introducing sex toys into your sex life may not be easy, but you can start by talking about any previous experiences you may have had, what kind and size of vibrator you’re most comfortable getting on with, and whether there’s anything you know you definitely do or do not want.

 

The choice is yours

Here’s what you need to know about the main types of vibrators available today:

Streamlined vibrators are a good place to start an exciting journey into the world of sex toys. They are a simple, classic shape and are available with either one speed and function, or with a selection. Other kinds of vibrators have a twist dial function, which allows you to control exactly how fast and intense the vibrations are as per your preference. Meanwhile, there are still other kinds of vibrators that have different vibrating speeds and throbbing patterns.

Bullet or stroker vibrators are small, discreet and make the perfect first vibrator if you’re inexperienced about their use. They can be used alone or as a couple to add an extra fun and intense dimension to foreplay and sex. Although vibrators are often not designed for internal use, the best ones come with either one speed or varied speeds and pulse patterns. They can be used by both partners to increase sexual intimacy and experience new sensations during sex.

Intimate massagers are great to use as a couple, as they’re often designed to easily fit in your palm, allowing you to explore your partner’s body (or your own!). Imagine how heightened your pleasure can be with both your partner and the massager working on your body! Intimate massagers can look less daunting than some other vibrators and are inviting to use all over the body, which can make sex toys feel more natural when introduced in your sex life for the first time. Many intimate massagers have different speeds or modes to help inspire you to try new things in bed.

Rabbit vibrators became well-known after their appearance on the American sitcom Sex and the City, and they are a very popular choice all over the world. These sex toys offer both penetration and G-spot stimulation, while also having a ‘rabbit’ shaped part that sticks out to stimulate the clitoris. Women really love these vibrators, especially since they usually offer a range of speeds and intensities. Their size and power also mean that they can sometimes be preferred by people who already have some prior experience with sex toys.

Have fun exploring

Introducing a vibrator to sex can lead to whole new realms of pleasure and incredible new experiences in your sexual life. Make sure you choose one that you (and your partner, if you’re using it together or buying it as a gift for your partner) will be happy and confident using it. Do start by talking through what you’re both looking for in a sex toy and how you intend to use it. It’s often better to start simple and work your way up to bigger and more powerful vibrators, but as everyone is different, personal preference is always key. Have fun experimenting alone or together to see how sex toys can enrich your sexual life.