Please your partner and make sure their – and your – Yuletide yearnings are satisfied this Christmas.

The weather may be cold, but there’s no reason why your sex life should be anything but hot, hot, hot at this time of the year. Here’s how to have better sex during the season and warm the room’s temperatures…

Mistletoe and (mulled) wine

Christmas is a time for loving and giving – and that is really true for your bedroom antics, too.

The festive season is a time for much gaiety and revelry. Many people experience an emotional high at this time of the year, and they find that their naughty side is more prominent during the season. It could be the stories associated with mistletoe, or the romance of the cold season, or the hangover from the party season.

Relationships also reach a deeper level of love and understanding at this time of the year. This could be because people have time off to relax and focus on the really important things in life.

If you’re hoping for better sex as Christmas approaches, it’s up to you to get the party started! Try making things fun and festive by using Christmas traditions to your advantage.

Get naughty under the Christmas tree, or in front of an open fire, or take a break when giftwrapping and wrap (and then unwrap) each other. It might sound silly at first, but you will enjoy it when you both get into the spirit of things.

Have mistletoe in the house and if either of you stand under it, make sure you kiss each and every time you’re in the spot. You can also use the custom of sending Christmas cards to your advantage – don’t just sign the card, use it as an opportunity to write a romantic and sexy message to your partner and say the things you rarely get around to telling them the rest of the year. How’s that for a festive twist?

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If you’re visiting family, make sure the holiday doesn’t slip away without you having any alone time together. It can difficult – but also quite exciting – to find ways to have alone time in the midst of friends and relatives thronging the house.

You could claim that you ate a lot and that you need to sleep off the excess food. Only, once you reach the bedroom, you and your partner can have a ‘nap’ of a different kind. But if the walls are too thin or you cannot relax with an elderly relative right in the next room, you could slip away for a while and book a hotel room for a night.

Naturally, you can’t leave the house if you’re the hosts. You can get around this difficulty by sending your visitors out to the shop for a few groceries, or give them a long shopping list while you take the time to ‘clean up’ the house – but have a quickie instead!

You could get your partner a gift with a difference by giving them a sex toy (and the gift of better sex) – just make sure you have a good idea of what your partner is happy to try. And also make sure that you give them this gift when you’re alone – they don’t want to mistakenly open it in front of the family!

It’s best if you’ve talked about the subject of sex toys first and know you’re both on the same page. It’s not a good idea to get a sex toy if your partner does not like the idea, or if they have tried them before and still don’t like them.

Christmas is the perfect time for you both to make some sexy New Year’s resolutions. If you find it hard to talk about it, write down your ideas and let your partner read them, then talk the ideas through when you’re both ready.

Reconnect your relationship

Many people will have some time off at Christmas, and this is a chance to really focus some attention on your relationship and reconnect with each other.

Relax and try new things this season. Talk and spend time together outside of your normal routines, and you’ll feel more connected and have a renewed sense of intimacy.

Although the festive season can become frantic and busy, it’s important to reserve some special time for yourselves and put each other first.

After the stresses and strains the year may have brought, make the most of your time together and keep things on track for a better relationship (and better sex) as you head into the New Year.