Every couple wants to love the sex they have, and to achieve mutual pleasure. Nevertheless, from time to time, the man may have, and finish, his fun during sex before the woman really gets started. However, there are some sex positions which can give you the intimacy you both crave whilst at the same time, speeding her up and slowing him down. Durex can also help out in this department – our Mutual Pleasure condoms has ribs on the outside to speed her up, and benzocaine lube on the inside to slow him down. From old classics like cowgirl, to new kids on the block such as the cross, here are the top five sex positions that are best for achieving mutual climax with your partner.

The cowgirl

This position will probably be familiar to any couple that have been having sex together for a while. The man lies on his back whist the woman is on top, facing him. This allows the woman to be in control of the depth of penetration and dictate the pace of the sex, as well as it being great for clitoris stimulation. For the man, this position allows him to easily stimulate the woman with his fingers, thereby helping the woman to achieve orgasm quicker. Although the penis will be highly stimulated, because the woman is more likely to be move back and forth rather than up and down, the man will last longer too.


Despite being known as an act of affection between a couple which doesn’t necessarily imply intimacy, it can also be a sex position. Perfect for when you want to take your time getting intimate with your partner and are feeling a bit lazy, it involves the man lying on his side, spooning the woman from behind, and entering slowly. Penetration will only be shallow, so he won’t be overstimulated and he will be able to last longer. However, the closeness between you both, as the penis rubs up against the G-spot, can notch up the intimacy to off the scale, making it easier for the woman to reach orgasm.


The cross sex position may not necessarily immediately spring to mind when you think of sex positions and it may at first seem a bit tricky to pull off, but it can be very rewarding and pleasurable for both and your partner. Getting its name from the fact that partners form a cross with their bodies, the man lies on his side with the woman on her back, legs raised. The man then penetrates by opening her legs and pressing himself against her.[8] Although there is deeper penetration to be had here than spooning, giving heightened pleasure for both, the limited movement possibilities for the man means he won’t be leaving the party too early.[9]

Modified doggy style

We all know the doggy style sex position, but what about the modified doggy style position? Well, as the name suggests, it’s a modified version of the old favourite. The original position sees the man thrusting the woman from behind, who is on all fours, as the man holds on to her hips.[10] The modified doggy style sees the woman lowering herself down, with the man following suit. Even though both the man and woman will still enjoy the thrill of doing it doggy style, this aims for more of a long and intimate session rather than the short but sweet experience that regular doggy style can be. As the penetration won’t be as deep for him, you can both focus on achieving that mutual climax.[11]


Another slow burner building up to an explosive climax, this sex position comprises of the man sitting crossed leg with the woman straddling him on top. By wrapping her legs around his back and linking her arms around his neck, the woman can control the pace of things. It also enables deep penetration, but without the prospect of any overly deep thrusting which could lead to a premature end to the intimacy.[12]

Now you have all the resources available for mutual satisfaction, enjoy sex without the disappointment of it all ending a bit too soon.


[8] https://www.kinkly.com/definition/562/the-cross-position

[9] https://www.durex.co.uk/en-gb/explore-sex/article/5-sex-positions-to-help-him-last-longer-in-bed

[10] http://www.bustle.com/articles/33987-the-5-best-sex-positions-for-female-orgasm-because-there-is-nothing-wrong-with-you

[11] http://www.bustle.com/articles/53421-the-7-best-sex-positions-to-help-him-last-longer-in-bed-because-really-can-you

[12] https://www.durex.co.uk/en-gb/explore-sex/article/5-sex-positions-to-help-him-last-longer-in-bed